Updated: Sep 15, 2020
I’m often consumed with “getting it right”.
You know...Getting life right, making the right decisions, not screwing up, not being frivolous, choosing wisely. Figuring out what I want to do or what I should do. I spend outrageous amounts of time on big and small decisions. So afraid of making the wrong choice and trying SO hard to make the right one.
Indecisiveness has been a plague. And I’m going to go out on a limb here and say I’m not the only one (side note: how often do things actually pan out the way we expected or wanted them to? )
In light of this, I’ve been thinking about how I make decisions. Even unconscious ones. And “why” is a question that is always coming up. We ask ourselves “why”. Others as us “why” (or maybe they just think it!).
Of course, asking “why” is important. It’s a wise thing to do. But sometimes, it keeps us in a box. You know?
I’ve started thinking more in terms of “why not”. For small things, for big things, for the in-between things. I find “why not” to be very freeing.
I’m always trying to find the balance between legalism and sacredness. Living by too many rules stifles life and suffocates. Living without any is a kind of freedom that isn’t actually freedom at all, it’s chaos where nothing has any meaning.
In the midst of these truths, in the pursuit of perspective and a life worth living, I’ve been finding it helpful to ask “why not” instead of “why”.
After all, why not? :)